Value 01
Acceptance, not apology
Members never have to explain or excuse their size. Disclosure is handled by the platform itself, which means conversations can begin where most apps make them end — with curiosity about the person.
Our story
About NotAboutSize: A Body Positive Dating Community Built On Acceptance
NotAboutSize is a discreet, modern dating platform built around one quiet conviction: that connection is shaped by character, not by anatomy. We exist for the adults who’ve waited too long for a space where size disclosure is already handled and intimacy can start with honesty.
Founded 2023 · 91,000+ members · United States & beyond
Founder story
Our founder’s story
NotAboutSize grew out of a simple frustration that David Minns kept hearing from friends, readers, and survey respondents: mainstream dating apps had no language for size acceptance, and the silence was costing people years of avoided connection. David, who originally championed niche size-positive dating with Dinky One in 2020, set out to build something warmer, safer, and more inclusive of every orientation and identity.
His founding statement still anchors the team’s daily decisions:
Some men are big, some average and some below average. NotAboutSize lets smaller men date people outside their circle of friends with the safety that everyone using the site is fully aware. Members can focus on shared interests and get on with dating. — David Minns, founder
Three years on, the team is a small, distributed crew of product designers, moderators, and writers based across the United States. We answer to members, not investors — and we like it that way.
What we stand for
Our mission and values
We didn’t want another swipe-and-burn app. We wanted a place that earned trust slowly, then kept earning it. These three commitments shape every feature decision we ship.
Value 02
Discretion, by design
Email-only signup, optional blurred photos, no social login, no data sales, and a one-click delete. Privacy isn’t a premium feature here — it’s the foundation.
Value 03
Inclusivity, on purpose
Straight, gay, bisexual, transgender, and non-binary adults are equally welcome. Body-positive women who genuinely prefer smaller partners belong here too. Everyone reads the same community norms.
Body positivity
Our body-positivity stance
Niche dating can easily slide into novelty if it isn’t handled with care. NotAboutSize takes its cues from the wider body-positivity movement and the journalists who have written thoughtfully about size acceptance — including Mashable’s framing of size-positive dating as a stigma-free win for men who’ve felt invisible on mainstream apps.
The shape of your tricep or the firmness of your thigh might reel a guy in, but it surely won’t keep him around. — Body-positive author Robyn, paraphrased in our philosophy
The same idea applies here: physical size doesn’t sustain attraction or love — character does. That belief shapes the tone of our copy, the way our moderators handle reports, and the kind of language we will never use about anyone’s body. If you’d like to read more on the cultural side, see our piece on whether size really matters or our guide to building body confidence as a man.
By the numbers
Milestones along the way
A short timeline of what the community has built together, with sources you can verify.
2020
Niche size-positive dating pioneered
Mashable, March 10, 2020 launch coverage
91K+
Verified members across the community
Internal product data, 2026
2023
NotAboutSize launches in the United States
Founding press release
100%
Discreet by design - privacy from day one
NotAboutSize privacy commitment
Press
What the press has said
Body-positive size acceptance has been covered in hundreds of online, print, radio, and TV outlets — from Mashable to Dating News and Dating Advice. We’re grateful to the reporters who’ve written about the niche with care.
Though it may appear to be a gimmick, size-positive dating has been framed as a body-positivity win — a stigma-free space for men with smaller penises to date with mutual awareness upfront.
Members can focus on shared interests and get on with dating — the safety of mutual awareness is what makes the experience finally feel ordinary.
For member voices alongside press coverage, browse our disclosure anxiety guide or the Small Penis Club testimonials.