Frequently Asked Questions About Small Penis Dating
Direct answers to the questions our small penis dating community asks most often. If you can’t find what you need here, the how it works walkthrough and our about page fill in the rest.
Account questions
Signing up takes under two minutes. We ask for the minimum needed to keep the community real and you in control of your data.
How do I create a NotAboutSize account?
You must be at least 18 to register. We ask for your email, your gender, the gender(s) you’d like to meet, and the location where you’d like to date. You’ll confirm a verification email, then choose a username and password. Browsing requires an account so the community stays members-only.
Do I need a phone number to sign up?
No. Email verification is required, but a phone number is not. Many members deliberately use a separate dating-only email address to keep their personal inbox private.
How do I edit or delete my account?
Open your dashboard and choose Settings. From there you can edit any profile field, hide your profile temporarily, or delete your account with one click. Deletion removes your data — we don’t keep shadow archives.
What is the 3-6-9 rule in dating?
The 3-6-9 rule is a popular guideline that suggests checking in on a new relationship at 3 weeks, 6 weeks, and 9 weeks. Each milestone is a chance to evaluate communication, compatibility, and trust before deepening commitment. It’s an informal framework, not a hard rule.
What is the 7-7-7 rule in dating?
The 7-7-7 rule, popularized on social media, suggests couples plan one date every 7 days, one overnight getaway every 7 weeks, and one longer trip every 7 months to keep connection strong. It’s a maintenance habit, not a courtship script — useful once you’ve met someone you want to invest in.
Privacy questions
Discretion is the reason most members join. Here’s exactly what we do and don’t do with your information.
Does NotAboutSize sell my data?
No. We do not sell user data to advertisers, brokers, or third parties — full stop. Revenue comes from optional premium subscriptions, not from your information.
Will my profile show up in Google?
No. Profile photos and personal information are blocked from public search engine results. Your profile is visible only to verified members signed into the platform.
What location data do you collect?
We track only approximate location — enough to show you nearby matches within your chosen radius, never precise GPS coordinates. You set the city and search distance; we don’t do anything more granular.
Can I erase my personal data?
Yes. You can erase your personal data at any time from your dashboard. Account deletion is one click and removes your profile, photos, messages, and personal details.
What are red flags in online chats?
Common red flags include requests for money or gift cards, pressure to move to another app within minutes, refusal to video chat, inconsistent stories, profiles that feel too polished, and anyone who pushes past a stated boundary. Report and block freely — our moderators review reports within 24 hours.
Pricing and subscription questions
NotAboutSize is free to join. Premium chat is optional, fairly priced, and refundable.
Is NotAboutSize free?
Yes — signup, profile creation, browsing, and matching are 100% free with no credit card required. Premium chat unlocks unlimited messaging, advanced filters, and read receipts.
How much does premium cost?
Current plans (updated April 25, 2026): Guaranteed 6 Months at $2.33/month ($14.00 total), Premium 3 Months at $4.67/month ($14.00 total), Starter 1 Month at $6.00/month, and a 1 Week trial at $3.00. Total range typically falls between $3 and $14 USD — average among dating providers.
How do I pay?
Credit card or PayPal. The 1-week subscription is PayPal only. We do not store full card numbers on our servers; payments are tokenized through our processor.
How do I cancel my subscription?
Open your profile settings and choose Cancel Subscription. Subscriptions automatically renew with a 1-day opt-out notice period, so cancel at least 24 hours before the next billing date. After cancellation you keep access until the period ends.
Is there a money-back guarantee?
Yes — a 14-day money-back guarantee on your first payment, provided the account hasn’t been used outside our fair usage policy. Refunds aren’t issued for failure to cancel or for remaining access after a cancellation.
Is Adult Friend free?
AdultFriendFinder offers a free tier with limited messaging, but most active features require a paid membership. It’s a different category of site — hookup-focused, not body-positive niche dating. NotAboutSize stays free for browsing and matching, and keeps premium under $15/month.
Is there a dating site that is 100% free without payment?
Some apps like OkCupid, Bumble, and Hinge offer free messaging on their basic tier, but advanced filters and visibility usually sit behind a paywall. NotAboutSize keeps the essentials — signup, browsing, profile creation, and matching — free forever; only unlimited chat and premium filters require a subscription.
Eligibility questions
Who belongs here? Almost anyone who supports a body-positive, consent-first ethos.
Who is NotAboutSize for?
NotAboutSize is designed for men with smaller-than-average penis size and the individuals who appreciate, prefer, or are neutral about it. We welcome members of all genders, sexual orientations, and backgrounds, with a minimum age of 18.
Are women welcome?
Absolutely. Women are a core part of the community — including women who actively prefer smaller partners, women who are simply tired of mainstream apps’ locker-room energy, and women looking for emotionally present men without disclosure baggage.
Is the site inclusive of LGBTQ+ members?
Yes. Gay, bisexual, and transgender adults are welcome, with orientation and identity filters built into matching. Our inclusive dating guide goes deeper on how the experience differs for LGBTQ+ users.
Who is NotAboutSize not for?
It’s not the right fit for people who reject body positivity, who prefer algorithmic matching over manual filters, or who want completely free unlimited messaging. We use clear filters and human moderation, and premium chat is a paid feature.
Do I have to be from the United States?
The platform is open to members from all countries, with the bulk of our active community in the United States. Local meetups and search radius work best where member density is highest.
Safety questions
Active moderation, AI nudity filtering, and explicit consent norms keep the community respectful. For the full playbook, see our online dating safety tips.
How are fake profiles prevented?
Every new member must pass email verification and a profile picture verification step before they can message anyone. Reports of suspicious behavior are reviewed by human moderators within 24 hours.
Does AI moderate explicit content?
Yes. AI-powered moderation automatically detects and filters explicit images in profile photos and live chats, helping maintain a respectful environment. The same system also lets you unblur images in chats when you choose to.
What does GGG mean on a dating site?
GGG stands for “good, giving, and game” — a phrase coined by sex columnist Dan Savage to describe an ideal sexual partner: good at sex, giving of pleasure, and game to try reasonable new things within their comfort zone. On dating profiles it signals an open, generous, communicative attitude toward intimacy.
What does queen size mean in dating?
Queen size in dating typically refers to a partner — most often a woman — who specifically prefers men with smaller penises, sometimes inside an SPH (small penis humiliation) or size-difference kink dynamic. On NotAboutSize, queening dynamics are welcome inside the Small Penis Fetish category with explicit consent norms; the rest of the site is purely affirming.
How do I report someone?
Every profile and chat has a Report button. Choose the reason (harassment, fake profile, size-shaming, scam, etc.) and the report goes straight to a human moderator. You can also block anyone with one tap — they won’t be notified.
Technical questions
NotAboutSize runs in the browser so you can switch between devices without losing your place.
Does NotAboutSize work on mobile?
Yes. NotAboutSize works on phone, tablet, laptop, and desktop through a mobile-friendly website and any modern desktop browser. The mobile experience has full feature parity with desktop.
Is there a dedicated iOS or Android app?
Not yet. Rather than a native app, we offer a mobile-friendly website with the same features as desktop, accessible from any device. Registration works fully on mobile. A native app may come in the future but isn’t announced.
Which browsers are supported?
Recent versions of Chrome, Safari, Firefox, and Edge all work. Enable JavaScript and cookies for the site to function fully — chat, filters, and verification all rely on them.
I forgot my password — what do I do?
Choose “Forgot password” on the login page and we’ll email you a secure reset link. Reset links expire after 30 minutes for security. If you don’t see the email, check spam and confirm you signed up with that address.
Can I use NotAboutSize on multiple devices?
Yes — your account follows you. Sign in on your phone during the day and your laptop in the evening; conversations and matches sync in real time across every device.