Verified members only
Email verification plus profile-picture verification block fake profiles before they can message you. Your photos never appear in Google Search results.
How online dating works here
How NotAboutSize Works: Dating Sites That Actually Work, In Four Steps
Most dating apps assume you want to perform. NotAboutSize assumes you want to connect. Here’s exactly what happens between you clicking “Join free” and your first real conversation — usually under ten minutes from start to finish.
No credit card. Browse free. Cancel premium anytime.
Step 1 · 60 seconds
Step 1: Sign up in 60 seconds
Tap Join Free, enter an email, set a password, and confirm you’re 18 or older. Tell us your gender and the city you’d like to meet someone in. That’s the whole signup. We don’t ask for a phone number, we don’t require a social login, and we never run a credit check.
Hit your inbox for the verification email, click the link, and you’re in. The whole flow averages under two minutes based on our internal product data — faster than most paywalls you’ll meet today.
- Required: email, age (18+), gender, target location.
- Not required: phone number, real name, credit card, social login.
- Username and password are used for every future login.
Step 2 · At your pace
Step 2: Build your profile at your pace
Once verified, you land on a clean profile editor. Add a few sentences about who you are, what you enjoy, and what you’re open to. Tag interests, set pronouns, and pick the orientations you want to match with. Skip whatever feels too soon — you can finish it later.
Anonymity is built in. Only an email address is required to be on NotAboutSize, and pictures stay optional forever. You can opt out of email alerts through the privacy menu and delete your account with one click, which erases all your data instantly. There’s no “deactivate then wait 30 days” pattern here.
Step 3 · Search with intent
Step 3: Search and filter with intent
Open the search panel and dial in what matters. Our advanced filters let you refine matches by location, age range, distance, sexual orientation, and gender — so you spend your evenings on people who actually fit, not on swiping through noise.
Within 25 miles
Ages 28–40
Women
Body-positive
Open to meeting
Save any combination as a named search and get a gentle notification when a new member matches it. Need help finding people nearby? Read finding partners who prefer smaller for practical search tips.
Step 4 · Real conversation
Step 4: Chat safely and connect
When someone catches your attention, send a message. Our chat is moderated by an AI system that automatically detects and filters explicit images in profile photos and live conversations, so the inbox stays respectful even on busy nights. You can mute, block, or report any user from inside the thread.
From there it’s yours. Trade voice notes, schedule a video call, or take it offline when you’re ready. Want a deeper feature tour? See the Small Penis Chat overview, then read our online dating safety tips before your first meet-up.
Safety
Safety features built in
NotAboutSize doesn’t sell user data, has never been hacked, and tracks only approximate location. Here are the protections you get the moment you join.
AI moderation, 24/7
Explicit images in profile photos and live chats are detected and filtered automatically. You stay in control with photo blur and one-tap reporting.
One-click erase
No phone number on file. No data resold. Delete your account from the dashboard and every record is removed instantly — no shadow archive.
Pricing
Pricing at a glance
Browsing and matching are free. Premium chat is priced in the average range for niche dating — typically $3 to $14 USD — with PayPal or credit card. Pricing last reviewed April 2026.
Starter
$6/month
Try premium for a single month with no long-term commitment.
- Unlimited messaging
- Advanced filters & saved searches
- Read receipts
- Cancel anytime
Premium 3 Months
$4.67/month — $14 total
The popular pick. Three months of full features at the lowest monthly rate without a long lock-in.
- Everything in Starter
- Priority profile placement
- Photo unblur credits
- 14-day money-back guarantee
Guaranteed 6 Months
$2.33/month — $14 total
Our risk-reversal plan: if you don’t get a date during the term, we add two extra months free.
- Everything in Premium
- Date guarantee — or two months free
- Concierge profile review
- Priority support
Also available: 1-week trial at $3 (PayPal only). Payment via credit card or PayPal. Refunds within 14 days, no questions asked.
FAQ
How it works, answered
Still curious? Our full FAQ page covers account, billing, and safety in more depth.
Is there a dating site that is 100% free without payment?
Yes — NotAboutSize offers a free tier that includes signup, profile creation, browsing, and matching with no credit card required. Premium features like unlimited messaging start at $3 per month, but the core experience of finding and viewing matches is permanently free.
How do I find singles in my area?
After signup, set your target city and a search radius between 5 and 100 miles. The platform surfaces local singles filtered by age, gender, and orientation. Local meetups also appear inside the Small Penis Club when at least 25 verified members live near each other.
Do I need to upload a photo to use NotAboutSize?
No. Photos are completely optional. If you upload them, you control whether they stay blurred until a match mutually unlocks them. Many members start photo-free and add images only after a few conversations.
How long does signup actually take?
Around 60 to 120 seconds based on internal product data. You enter email, age, gender, and target location, click the verification link, and you’re in. Profile copy and photos can be added later at your pace.
What is the Guaranteed plan?
The Guaranteed 6 Months plan promises a date during the six-month term. If you finish the term without one, NotAboutSize extends your membership by two additional months free. It’s our risk-free option for paid memberships at $2.33 per month, $14 total.
How do I delete my account?
Open your dashboard, choose Account, then Delete account. The action is one click and erases your data instantly — no waiting period, no shadow archive, no “we’ll keep your profile in case you come back” pattern.